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Gotta Find a Home

Telling The Stories of Those Too Often Ignored

Throughout the past four years I have met many people, now friends, who for various reasons are, or were, homeless.

Antonio, slept on a park bench and was beaten, had his teeth kicked out, for no other reason than his choice to sleep outdoors. He is a small, gentle man who has a phobia about enclosed spaces.

Craig, slept on the sidewalk in the freezing cold. I saw him every morning,  was never sure if, when I lifted the corner of his sleeping bag, I would find him dead or alive. Sometimes, he confided, he would have preferred never to awake.

Joy,  fell on hard times. She slept behind a dumpster in back of Starbucks. I saw her with blackened eyes, bruised legs, cracked ribs, cut and swollen lips. I usually see her sitting on the sidewalk 'panning' for change.

I can't do much for these people except to show them love, compassion, an ear to listen, perhaps a breakfast sandwich and a coffee. I want to do more. To know them is to love them. What was seen cannot be unseen.

I am  writing an account of their daily lives. Identities and locations have been changed to protect the usual suspects. My book, Gotta Find a Home: Conversations with Street People, is published by Karenzo Media.  I thank publisher, Karen Silvestri for helping to realize my dream. Release date was June 4, 2014.  All profits will be used to support those forced onto the streets and the Ottawa Innercity Ministries, Street Outreach Program.

Purpose: OIM’s Street Outreach teams come to walk alongside the poor and homeless in the downtown core. Volunteer teams provide relief provisions, pastoral care, crisis intervention and referrals. Street Outreach is the main component of OIM’s work. Through Street Outreach our trained volunteers meet men and women living on the street, create trusting relationships, and can work to filling both physical and personal needs. Last year (2012) OIM connected with 7,672 individuals on the street in downtown Ottawa, 2,735 of whom were youth.

The Red Vests If you see two or more people walking down the street wearing a bright red vest with the OIM logo on it then you have run into one of our mobile outreach teams! OIM’s Street Outreach volunteers are out meeting with people and handing out snacks and toiletries six days a week. We have teams on the street Monday to Thursday nights (7pm – 9pm), including late Wednesday (9pm-Midnight). Additional teams are out during the day on Wednesdays & Saturdays (10am-1pm) and Thursdays & Fridays (1-3pm).

 





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True story of captivity in IRAN!

My name is Lori Foroozandeh and my life started out with physical abuse at 6 months old to  the point of being taken away from my parents.  When my adoptive family took me they told me I had cigarette burns all over my body, and sores on my butt from never getting my diaper changed.  Wait it gets better from here:

  • At 11 I was molested by my adoptive brother.
  • At 18 I had my first child, enlisted in the army and married my recruiter.
  • Went AWOL from the army due to my husband ran off with another woman and took my son.
  • Soon after this I became a truck driver to stay mobile so the MP’s wouldn’t catch me for being AWOL.
  • At 27 I met and eventually married a middle eastern man who turned out to be a terrorist and took me to Iran and wouldn’t let me return to the USA.
  • The day after 911 I was put into a POW type camp in the middle of nowhere, Iran.  I was tortured, beaten and raped for six weeks.  Eventually escaped and got back to the USA.

So yes my life has been eventful and you can read about all my ordeals in my award winning book;  “Lori’s Song”.  Available on Amazon and through my website.

http://www.amazon.com/dp/1432738291?tag=losso-20&camp=14573&creative=327641&linkCode=as1&creativeASIN=1432738291&adid=0KESH5SQTHNBG1SRQGY4&&ref-refURL=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.loris-song.com%2F

My website is:  www.loris-song.com

Here are the other social sites you are welcome to join me on as well as some reviews and excellent articles regarding my book.

http://www.themusingsofabookaddict.com/2009/08/loris-song-by-lori-foroozandeh.html

http://books.google.com/books/about/Lori_s_Song.html?id=P5a6PwAACAAJ

http://ezinearticles.com/?Loris-Song-Written-by-Lori-Foroozandeh&id=2877932

http://cerebralgirl.blogspot.com/2009/09/review-and-interview-loris-song-by-lori.html

Social Networking sites:

I liked it be sure to visit mine as well and join me on twitter and facebook if you’d like too:

https://www.facebook.com/lforoozandeh

http://www.amazon.com/Lori-Foroozandeh/e/B002NSC2DU

https://twitter.com/Loris_Song

http://www.outskirtspress.com/lorissong/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j85rYnZ4YYU

http://lorissong.com/

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Words Can Be More Hurtful Than Actions!

While physical pain is terrible, and nobody should ever lay a hand on another human being except when absolutely necessary, very often verbal abuse can be just, or even more, harmful to the victim.

What we say, and how we say it, can have long-term consequences, so before you speak, always think things through.

Control your temper, and refrain from acting out impulsively, because, even if you apologize after slipping up and saying something you shouldn't have, the proverbial cat is already out of the bag and can never be completely wiped away, much the same way that even when a trial judge upholds an objection in court, what was testified to cannot be totally disregarded by the jury!

It's all about control, intelligence, compassion and feelings, and, simply put, treating others the same way we want to be treated.

Respect goes a long way in this world, so always keep on your toes about how you interact with others.

This way, when you take a look in the mirror, you can feel good about the person who is staring right back at you!

If you haven't read my book, "Jew in Jail" yet, I hope you do.

It is chock full of insightful information on how I was able to recover from my past addictions to alcohol, drugs and gambling while incarcerated, and go on to lead a happy and healthful life.

http://www.jewinjail.com/

Until next time, everyone, have a great day, and week ahead!

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What ‘ya gonna do?

In one of those “kids say the darnedest things moments” when they spill the family secrets, a neighbor’s son told me “my parents always say that if it happens outside my door, I don’t need to get involved”. I wanted to ask if his parents explained what kind of things he shouldn't be involved in – was it the argument overheard next door or the cry for help from a stranger? In the end, I decided not to question the youngster.
How much do we involve ourselves in the lives of others? And where do we draw the line?
What would you do if you knew a child was in trouble and possibly being abused by one of the adults she yearns to trust? There are some people who, by the nature of their jobs, are legally required to report all suspected child abuse such as teachers, doctors, police officers, and child care providers to name just a few. Any adult who lives with the child who has been abused is also legally required to report the situation although all too often these people are either involved in the abuse or complicity denying the existence.
What about the rest of us, what is our moral obligation to report when we've seen a child in distress with repeated and multiple bruises, or worse?
We need to learn to recognize the signs of abuse and not deny that it might be happening. Severe injuries, multiple bruises from obviously different occasions, fear at the idea of going home, a lack of medical care for illness or injury, detailed tales of sexual activity, consistently unkempt appearance, or frequent and constant hunger MAY be signs we should pay attention to. If a child comes to you with a blatant cry for help and story of an abusive situation, it shouldn’t be discounted without consideration. And as the parent of a child who once screamed for help standing at her bedroom window when she was angry for being sent to her room for a time-out, I am aware that sometimes things CAN be misunderstood.
If we must err though, we should err on the side of the child’s safety. Child protective agencies exist in every region and depending on the size of your municipality maybe even in your city. If you suspect the possibility of child abuse contacting them may very well be the first step in saving a child’s life. The staff at these offices are trained to determine if the information you provide is enough to warrant a more thorough investigation so they will ask you questions such as what you witnessed, if you've seen former evidence, and how well you know the people involved (to assess your vantage point). Your name will be kept out of it if they decide to investigate so you shouldn't worry about repercussions. Unless it can be proven that you maliciously reported a false case, you are immune to any consequences. Cases will be investigated and any actions taken will be done in the best interests of the child.
When I researched information for my novelBartlett’s Rule, I came across survivors of childhood abuse and one of the things repeatedly stated was why people who knew didn't do anything to help. Physical and emotional scars never go away. Children are vulnerable and often not able to speak up and explain what is happening to them – but if we suspect abuse, we should do something to help. It's the right thing.

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