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    I almost hate telling people that I'm a writer because almost every single one of them immediately asks the same stupid question: "Where do you get your ideas from?"

    If you meet a chef do you ask him/her, "How did you decide what kind of food you like to cook?" Do you ask the major league baseball player, "How did you figure out how to catch that third-inning fly ball?" Would you ask someone, "Why did you decide to fall in love with that woman?"

    You don't open a web page or tap your smart phone to find a list of people you will love or food that you want to cook or stories that you want to write. We all encounter large numbers of people and events and some resonate with us and some don't. Who knows why?

    Every time I'm about to start a new book I have to ask myself what story I want to tell. For me, the answer is always based on the emotional situation I want to explore – revenge, redemption, betrayal, perseverance, whatever. In order to get my level of energy up I need to find the emotional core to the story I'm going to write.

    I liked the idea of a decent, courageous lawman willing to do whatever it took, no matter the personal cost, to bring a gang of ruthless killers to justice and that idea became Shooting Crows At Dawn.

    I liked the idea of child mistakenly thought dead rescued through the innate decency of an ordinary person and returned safe to her family and from that idea arose The Concrete Kiss.

    I liked the idea of a technically smart but socially clueless young cop being mentored by a skilled detective in the hope that someday the kid could himself become a great member of the Murder Police and from that notion came Death Never Sleeps.

    I first need to find some emotional situation that excites me and then construct a story around that idea. Every writer is different. Lots of crime novelists like writing what I call "puzzle stories," books with complicated plots and clues. There is a crime. There are lots of suspects. The killer may or may not even be on the suspect list. The detective follows the threads until, eventually, he or she finds the culprit.

    I could write a book like that but I won't write a book like that because there's no excitement, no emotion, in it for me. For me, it's just work. I may as well be digging a ditch. There are plenty of writers who love writing puzzle books, who enjoy figuring out the clues and the plot twists. Good for them. I enjoy reading books like that. I just don't enjoy writing them so I immediately cross all kinds of pure puzzle stories off my list.

    Getting back to the "where your ideas come from" question, it's not so much how you think up a story. It's more about looking at that list of story ideas and then deciding which one you think you will enjoy writing versus all those other stories you could think of that would be drudgery to write.

    Where do those story ideas come from? The same place that a chef gets the dinner menu and the artist gets the subject for his/her painting. They all come from the individual's imagination. If you don't have any imagination then you aren't going to be much of a fiction writer, painter, chef, musician, etc.

    Maybe people who ask the question don't have much of an imagination. Maybe it's like someone who can't add 11 + 19 in their head asking the accountant how he knows that the answer is 30. He just does. That's how his brain works. But here's the crucial thing: the real trick is not coming up with the correct total. It's figuring out which numbers to add together in the first place.

    –David Grace


    




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Long-Distance Relationship : Stay Connected.

Being A Parent is a job that will provide you with every emotion under the sun, but it's the most important job you will have. Learning how to raise and train your children properly is very important because of their future. The more knowledge and information you have, including understanding what your kids is going through at different stages, the more successful you'll be at being a parent.

You can make your disciplinary attempts far more effective, by trying to be able to shift the focus of your phrases from only highlighting the infant's wrongdoing to using positive language. Children who are repeatedly criticized, have a natural tendency to resist self-control, which in turn, leads to increased instances of fits, discipline problems and also poor conduct.

You shouldn't be afraid to take some time out of the day for yourself. Being a parent is a tense job. Children are very responsive to the moods and perceptions of their parents, and if you become irritable or unhappy, they will also become unhappy. Satisfied children start with a happy parent.

Being around your children a lot can be very stressful. Make sure you take break for you. Plan a dinner night out with a good friend, go for a prolonged walk to go to the movies on your own. That little time away will probably be enough for your to recharge and be the best parent you will be.

Here's more on long distance relationship picture ideas check out ptiturl.com/ While experiencing a divorce with younger children, it is important to give them only the information that's necessary for them to understand. Zero excess information should be given to the young children or it may hurt their impression from the parent. Your kids should not feel any effect of their mother and father divorce, even though they always do.

Again, bringing up a child is difficult, especially if you are feeling frustrated and also overwhelmed. But, if you can go ahead and take information provided in this article after which apply it to the situation at home with your individual child or children, you are sure to be a little closer to that you would like with regards to your being a parent objectives and goals.
Statistics say that long-distance relationships hardly ever last. After all, how can you create and sustain a relationship along with someone you rarely discover? If you are in a long-distance relationship, there could be an answer to those dismal stats. You can stay closer and revel in a more intimate relationship by expressing quotes. Not just any quotes, but ones that entice the heart and reinforce your love for each other.

This is very easy to accomplish, via email, on a daily basis. Don't merely send a quote on a special event, but every day, to let the one you love know that you care and you're simply thinking of them. Of course, this won't replace talking on the phone or even seeing each other in person, nonetheless it can bridge the gap in between those times.

If the thought of mailing daily emails seems somewhat daunting, try making up any journal or scrapbook along with daily readings on them. After that, send them to your partner so they will have something physical to think about every day. You can make it as imaginative as you like, and add poems, pictures, drawings, or doodles to make it more personal. You can even add pictures of you in your brand-new outfit!

There is a myriad of quotes that you can choose from, depending on your current relationship and your personalities. You are able to pick fun quirky quotations, or sentimental, serious estimates. Or choose a mixture of the two types. The possibilities are limitless. All you need to do is use your imagination.

How will these quotes bring you closer to your significant other? For one thing, your mate will imagine you every day, as they see the quote you have sent to them. They will not only think of anyone, but will remember the good times and also special occasions that you shared with each other. They will come to look forward every day to looking at their email address and wondering what the subsequent quote is going to be. Once they look at quote, they will be more more likely to get in touch with you. This entices more conversations, so you can learn more about each other, and create new thoughts. It may even precipitate an improvised visit!

You can even send all of them motivational and inspirational rates if you sense that your companion is lonely, feeling glowing blue, or sick. A simple internet search will get you hundreds of quotes that you could choose from to make sure you capture the correct mood and communicate precisely what you are feeling
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Do You Have The "Write" Stuff?

One thing I always make sure to tell my audience, when I am delivering a motivational & inspirational speech in order to increase their self-esteem and self-confidence, is that each and every single person can express their feelings by writing.
 
All it takes is a pen, piece of paper, and one's imagination and innermost thoughts.
 
Actually, in this internet age, the pen and paper aren't even necessary anymore, so it makes this "task" even easier!
 
For me, writing "Jew in Jail" (out by hand, incidentally) while serving my sentence in prison was incredibly therapeutic, at a time in my life when I was so down on myself for the situation I created.
It afforded me the opportunity to become introspective and reveal to myself why I had been acting out and behaving the way I was for so long, as well as figure out what caused my addictions to alcohol, drugs and gambling in the first place, which led to my arrest and incarceration for robbery.
 
Since returning home a free man in 2004, I have been busy promoting "Jew in Jail," speaking at drug treatment programs, hospital detoxes, jails, schools, and anywhere else people need to hear an uplifting story of redemption.
 
The one constant I continuously maintain when I speak is the importance for humans to release their feelings, which, for me, is best served through writing.
 
Writing is one activity that doesn't punch a time clock, allows the participant to be his or her own boss, costs nothing but time, and has the potential to affect so many people's lives in a positive way.
 
While I am not knocking good old fashioned conversation, I feel writing has one major advantage that the former doesn't, which is the ability to go back days, weeks, months, or even years later and reread what has been written to chart one's progress and discover if anything beneficial became of putting those aforementioned thoughts down on paper or computer screen.
 
Writing is also very personal, so whether you call it a diary, journal, or whatever, give it a try.
 
Your brain is chock full of thoughts, feelings, emotions and ideas, many of which you might not even realize you have, unless you sit down and unleash them one word at a time.
 
I'm sure you have the "write" stuff inside of you, waiting to come out, so don't delay.
 
Your skills and talents need to be showcased at once.
 
Plus, who knows - you just may have the next best seller at your fingertips!
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